Skandalouz
I met you through my homie now you act like you don't know me
So disappointed cause baby that shit was so phony
It's not for me, you see no lovin from my closest homies
Woulda paid you no mind, but baby you was all up on me
While you proceed with precision, you had the table hosed
No, I ain't mad at you baby, go 'head and play them fools
They chose not to listen, so now he stuck inside his house
and can't leave without his bitch permission...
Ready to bust, in the city you don't know who to trust but bitches lookin skandalouz
“Skandalouz” Tupac Sukur, 1995
What you do will come back to you, this world we live in is such a small place, and these words are ever so true. So you like to play around here and there, thinking the whole time that you’re not hurting nobody. The situation you put yourself in can take 5 minutes or last a weekend. So let’s see what you did with Jeff can hurt your cousin 4 years later, and your next door neighbor in less than a month. We don’t stop to think of the consequences of the good feeling, sometimes things are done with intent, only concern is you. I want to take a moment to examine a few types of individuals and one state of mind. Most of all straight or gay you will know someone just like this. After all there are all kinds of people in this world.
Young dumm and full of cumm, that’s what my dear Joan use to call me and still does from time to time. Like most kids my age, around 16 and 17, it was all about hopping from one hole to another. Why is it that the majority of guys this age; are not only eager to get laid but as soon as they do learn how to find one and than another, and most of the time will play them both as long as he don’t get caught. If he has an older brother put the blame on him. There is a good measure of shit we learn growing up and the places we picked it up we’re not clear to admit to it. At this age we do the stupidest things. Try things and keep it a secret until one drunken night with your very best friend, or blowing out 50 birthday candles. The main point to get your dick wet.
You will try the ugly girls, the mean girls that play sports, the one’s no one is really sure of? So if your lucky to have hot to trot girls in your school thats where you got your first taste. However, that does not mean they don’t deserve a certain amount of respect, a subject we have got to spend some time on. All praise to the single mother who taught her young man to have respect for the girls at school, never hit a girl. Ooh the day Helen Green whopped my ass and stabbed me with a #2 pencil, on a little yellow bus. My mother told me that I have this way of looking at people, and they always misunderstand me and my miscavious stares. So young dumm and full of cumm, its most self explanatory but for some of you, its about all the stupid things we will do until you get it right, and all the crazy things were willing to believe in. In some cases young boys are pushed to have sex, like little birds pushed from the nest. On the other hand mother’s strongly instill in young girls to remain virgins. Time and time again your encouraged to keep it, and shown as you walk the streets of your town, what can happen if you give it up to soon. Pushin a baby at 17 is no way to grow, when you’re friends are running to Coney Island and the beach. There’s something about that first time, mixed with the environment that you are raised, the argument can go back and forth, but with that first time out of the way and proudly wearing your badge of courage this is what we become. Some believe that there are a lot of traits that we are given at birth from our mother and father. Believing in this I have to understanding that growing in a loving family, will lead to having and wanting a loving relationship with all your partners.
You struggled to get there, or you paid the price by working the books and a part time job, college, it’s what they call the proving ground. I don’t pretend to know, how many make it to the university of their choice a virgin. So now that you’re there look around, cause everything has changed, and the attitudes are in big bold color. Still most of us searching, still some so unsure. So you got those so in love couples that followed each other to this school, every where you look they will be together. Hey they are that cute couple that has 7 to many fuckin pictures in the year book, why you sit turning the pages wondering why the camera never seem to find you in four long years. Lest you forget that loving couple, was not so happy throughout the eight semesters. One of them just couldn’t keep their legs close; how it all happened know one really knows.
Love birds, hand holders and shadow keepers, it don’t matter what you call them, and you can always pick them out of the crowd. So John and Patti broke up, and it’s the big story of the semester. She will be surrounded by the drill team, as she goes back and forth to classes, some of which he shares with her, and coved by the cheerleaders as she cries all night. There will be one girl in particular that will stick with her like glue, Pattie will later learn after another 2 semesters go by that this girls was one of many sucking John off. Yeah John learned a thing or two at keg parties, things that girlfriend was all too scared to try. Again this is a proving ground, there is a lot out there and someone’s always talking to someone, new persuasions come into play on a daily basis. Can’t say for sure what happened, maybe we should just blame their surroundings. After all this university is so big. A world of difference from the small town they lived in. So let me explain the Rollercoaster, a quick and easy state of mind. Something we can all relate to cause at some point in your life, you went buck wild. You were fast to find another, like a ride at six flags, it may only be 30 to 50 seconds and yet the thrills urge you to do it quickly over again. It’s were you get into risky sexual behavior; you know playing with 2 or 3 girls or guys at the same time. You find it so easy to pick up another passenger than you keep going around and round up and down. You strap in for the ride cause you already have a sense of how the first incline with be, he could be somebody’s boyfriend but we never speak of this. That’s the first rule when you what to take a new ride. It’s the same rule when you’re a Bird, but I’ll touch on that later. No names and if that’s part of coasters rules, you are armed with a short list of names that will suit. I’ve seen it happen so many times, when someone’s on the Rollercoaster, sex is first and for most, racing to where they can lay or stand, little information is exchanged. Now the bystanders, usually a best friend or hangin partner, they get confused why? Because the Rollercoaster makes everything seem like love or deep infatuation. Sometimes odd things happen, coasters have mainstays and you the sidekick are supposed to know who is who. You are not to get involved with any part of the coasters plan, just be there to understand what they presume you already know, because somewhere they tried to explain. What they are doing is perfectly fine to them, after all coaster’s play fare cause they ride the same tracks. It’s what they do ever so often as a new rider comes along unaware of the look and language, they sneer the wrong person, which is cause for a beat down. This undertaking is experienced by most college kids, cause you can take part in many different things, enjoy the ride for a short time and get off when it comes to an end. This is something that you should engage in only for a short time, at some point in your life, preferably when you are young.
For those who stay on the ride, my guess is they find it addictive. Taking a closer look at this, it’s a series of short term relations without emotion. For the coaster the ride begin and ends with sex, its one night stands, someone else’s girl, booty calls and road side quickies. Every where you go it’s a potential opportunity to find a rider. This segment is greatly devoted to both men and women. Although I would say that most guys I know are good at this cause of the lack of feeling and need for space. How do they take this learned and practiced skill from the college playground? Truthfully I’m not sure, however I think it’s a look it’s an understanding it’s in the way they talk with each other. I can tell you this in the gay life is practiced and widely used. The coasters have one name for the clubs and another that they use on-line. For all concerned it’s a sexual habit, a need to get off, both men and women alike experience this in the same way. Yeah you can see this most in there eyes, on the down low brothers hiding a wife at home and getting their freak on in the middle of the afternoon. Trust you could be working next to one all day at work, he’s got the (im) shit minimized, and runs out to lunch on the 7th floor of bloomies. But look if you knew a girl back in college that was rolling around to much, and today she seems to have it all together, give her props because she knew when the ride was over to get off.
Although it was hard to see them with other people, don’t feel bad for John and Pattie. After spending time with someone else they went back to old and familiar. They made a promise to always find a way, and to the friends they started out as. You see they both learned a trick or two along the way, now they are back to holding hands and smiling endlessly. Walking with his hand in her back pocket, they are the picture of what so many of us wish for. So we smile when we see them and even go out of our way to meet them. As for John and Pattie, she will need a lot of help over the next months, she will struggle to get along, it’s simple that boy did everything for her and now she’s nowhere. Looking like a lost dirty puppy, she scuffles around and hard as she tries her eyes tell the true story. Never wanting to give a guy the time of day, but being so hard will only get her in deeper troubles. She spends so much time worried about John that she can’t see what’s right in front of her face. However let’s look at what was her first mistake. No it’s not falling in love or following without any direction, although it has something to do with it, just give that some thought. Understanding, that was her big down fall. When she started to date John back in high school, the only thing she knew was that she had a boyfriend when most of her friends did not. He was always there for her, taught her to drive, and gave her an interest in basketball, maybe lost their virginity together.
But through it all she didn’t take enough time to express to John what she really wants, and what things will terminate their relationship at a moments notice. You see it was and is her responsibility to safeguard her heart. Giving him a clear cut understanding of what she will not tolerate. So you think she could not look into the future, to insure the unimaginable. After being with him for close to three years, and moving into college, that’s when she should have taken that opportunity to establish ground rules. To check with the one who holds her heart, and make sure without a reasonable doubt that she is understood. This is the number one reason why, people break up in serious to anger, foul hateful language and even psychical abuse. Simply neither one took the time to make the other understand what will burn a bridge. Just how easy it will be to do ill reversible damage to the relationship. A man won’t think that much, and probably will need you to bring up the conversation. With the rollercoaster state of mind you never get involved, so read between the lines cause there’s no need to put yourself out there. Well I think its time to go there, you know what I’m saying so don’t make me say it, yeah I got to talk about you birds and hookers. Same script different past, the rules have not changed a bit, its just that in this day we have sky pagers and cell phones. Birds my definition are females that run from one brother to another, feel me, see a man can do the same. This is once again something that is not confined by sexual orientation. Anyone into sex as much as one of these fine feathered friends, are prime candidates.
Most brothers will agree that a Bird don’t have much of a brain, thus the term bird. Once to kick your game, run your numbers even exchanged a .com and what is planned is set, either it pops off or it don’t. When they meet it’s a booty call, most birds are used as a back up, or called in from the bench when its time to feel something new. The act of getting in your pants the first time, will determine if you get put on the roster and put into play maybe heavy rotation. No doubt you have to bring your A game, if placement is what you’re after then you better come strong. What’s that all about tricks; sit and spin, swallow, back door, give that man a reason to call you into the game. If you know that wifey gives a professional to the third power, than you come to do battle, burn the skin off that niggers dick. Ware him out but don’t you let him see you sweat; it’s all about the skills. Now about that male or female, intercourse a psychical touch for however long it will last, it’s the one and only concern. Being a bird is a form of behavior. Differs from the hood to burbs cause for the most part you can’t tell what they look like. It not as if that have any particular characteristics, they can hold themselves just fine. No it’s not like they only come from the inter city, I know a few country girls that run game damm good, can play poker with the best of them. Yeah that’s right!
You guessed it, to play the game well you have to know how to multi task, you got to know how to hold them and when to fold them. Working you shit at every given moment of the day. For this one I’m going to break a rule of mine. Give some examples, and in the process try not to hurt any feelings. Well can you hurt the feelings of someone that knows nothing about intimacy? Currently I know this girl who sucks more dick than Oscar Meyer sells hotdogs. We don’t have to go into the fact that she looks 35 to 40 years old, but my God hard to believe she just turned twenty years old. So she started this rampage in the basement of the stainless steel tower that we worked in. This skyscraper apartment building of 50 stories has and engineering department of 19, she had all but the two white boys within less than one year. Remember her attitude is only for the ten or so minutes she’s on her keens, she is not confrontational. When other girls are sitting around talking about her, she says nothing, after all birds don’t react they just stick and move. Can’t hate, the bitch must got some kind of skill. They never give up information, who and when is not part of their limited vocabulary. Things are so suppressed that he or she can stand right next to the person they are rushing to be with in 1205 the clubhouse. These people develop some serious skills for deceiving; yeah he gets props for that. Truth is they just don’t say anything, but lest you forget, I wrote in “Escapades” that everybody has someone they talk to. That would be her big mistake, running her mouth without something between her flat lips. She was most proud of her conquest, and that’s how I figured them all out. Because when ever she would bump another one off, she would be so damm nice the next day-she was throwing it in my face. Let’s not forget that birds have wings, and therefore have no boundaries. What’s yours is only yours if you Watch! A bitch, a bird whatever you call it in your neck of the woods, be on the look out for that glare in their eyes, the way they focus on you but keep everyone else in sight.
Yo, FYI, I saw you on Figaroua St.
Not to be undone there was a hooker in the same damm building, lucky me so now I can tell you the difference. A big month. He don’t just want to tell his homies about the notches on his belt, it’s necessary that his reputation be colorful and close to the truth. It’s something that he needs to hit his head, when he walked into a room he needs everyone to be talking about him. He loved the attention, cause on the real side he is hiding a bigger secret. Well its quite simply there is only a slight difference between a hooker and a ho.
That has been well documented throughout the ages; I’ll do my best to express a Hooker. In his defense he has bad habits that he just can’t break. The man will be ready willing and able to have a sexually romp of any kind instantaneously. So at the drop of a hat he will go to work, on to the details to set the mood, to make sure that the meeting is a discrete one. Take a look at the body, its there product so they give it a lot of attention, an appearance that is acceptable to the masses. For the most part they have a set of indescribable standards, for instance if she’s a big girl, she aint working no diet, cause that’s her angle her notch-and for every bbw there’s a brother ready to pounce. Yo I know a few from back in Atlanta, let me just say there kids never go hungry and Georgia Power has never tried to pull the lights. Well playing here is like monopoly, because you keep moving around and all the while you collect property to help you for the future. Yeah, it’s all about that statement I heard my sweet Joan (once again) make to my female cousins one night as they were ready to run of to the club.
“A man is like a tool you got to know when to use him and when to put him back in the box. Plus this and listen up, don’t lay down without getting up with a benefit.”
I guess I got some big ass ears because I know I was listening, and taking notes-this little tidbit helped me a lot in college, and made life so very interesting. You guessed it, I put this into good practice, but no one said it better than Just Miss Chris.
“You need one man to hit that thing just right, and one to help pay the bills.”
That’s nicely put from one of her good days. She would go on to say that you put up with all that shit only from Mr. Paycheck, cause you must have lights and gas. But as for that nigga talking out the side of his mouth, his brother might be longer and stronger. I have found myself in this situation just last summer and truth is I looked for it. Aint nothing wrong with keeping both sides of your brain happy. Did I get off the subject, well to put it back on track, these are hooker like qualities. Take this good advice and use it as you will. Hookers talk, for the most part they are proud of what they have accomplished. When there is a missing part of the puzzle, they will openly take applications for new recruits to fill the void. Not to be understated there are a lot of hooker that take up this practice as a sport, and yes to that kind of hooker this is just a game. Scandalous, rude, in your face behavior, no man or women is safe. You’ve seen them in the mall, up and down any side street in Soho. You’re walking with your friend having a chill day, and some skank gives him a wink and a smile.
That was the obvious one, the one you missed, the one you need to be on the look out for, well she was dressed sexy but casual to you she never looked in your mans direction. She simply kept herself in a ear shot of the two of yous as you shopped. Then she put on a show for him as he stay tuned for more than a minute. Got’cha, she reached for the same thing as your girl, apologizing she said she was all into her girlfriends conversation, (cell phone in hand) and then complimented your outfit. All this happen right under your nose as she gave notice to her favorite grown and sexy party. You see she took care of every opportunity to give that man of yours some much needed information. After that the possible hook up, is all up to the man on a short leash. There’s a right way and a wrong way to do just about everything, but why can’t we as people just keep it real. If you don’t hurt me I promise I won’t hurt you, this is some of the mess you hear over and over again as we get into situations. So lets explore that, cause that explans what they are, you meet a nice girl on the number 6 train headed up town. The conversation is good and pop’in, the cell rings off later as expected, you continue with that idle, playful talk for one day or so maybe even a week. Then the jump off, after a few lunch dates, some late nights at the club, the two of you are twisting in some fresh sheets at the W. Now here is the question, (after all this time spent together wheather it was a day or weeks what does that make you?) The female is thinking one way, unless she is one of the aforementioned. The boy is thinking only with is dick. So wake up, cause you are now in a situation. It’s not a relationship by any kind of definition; after all he tells his boys your cool and
“We’re just kick ’n it”.
This place was created by the two of you and your lack of needs versus wants. Yes on the train he was lookin damm good after a long work day and you just out of the hateful 7 month relationship. Where the somewhat DJ, was a jealous and demanding stay at home boyfriend. You where just happy that the guy, who gave his seat up to you, had a good job and appeared not to be a player. She had already been down that road, and in all this she still made a mistake. In all her conversations with her situation, she thought that she was being understood. Why because he would ask questions about the X man, and then expressed through his own experience how he dislikes when people do those things. He took careful practice to use all the tactics of the types of people mentioned above, a multi user that’s a hard one to figure out, for the most part, they are not out to hurt anyone. This is the big mistake made by both, there needed to be a place and time when they talked about what they are doing and where they plan to end up.
You see if you don’t ask for a boyfriend, what you get is a situation. So if you talk about commitment, you think he’s going to run or think you’re a head case. No you need to be the master of your happiness, make it clear, state your case, which gives him the chance to choose from multiple options. If you know what you are getting into, you will be happy with the outcome, understanding that someone just wants sex, gives you the option to stay and play or just walk away. On the other hand if that is not disclosed up front, it will cause defendant problems when someone is caught cheating! My brother if your that one, be prepared for her to get all black girl on you, there may be some tire slashing. Why you ask, all because you did not start out with understanding. Just sit him down and ask the simple question:
“What do you want from me?”
And my personal favorite “where are we going?”
If you’re a women, please please don’t give him multiple choice, you know that’s when you lead them to an answer that you want to hear. So when he says what do you mean? Remind him that its just a simple question, and don’t give options. Well I don’t know because I don’t know you well, that might be the reply, stick to the subject-keep in mind what can happen if you play her for a fool, when in her heart of hearts she is the hand holding type. Setting across from you a bright glowing sun has just begun to blind you, cause she is floored that you (stated) just asked that question, but you can’t see it. How if she was on the rollercoaster, her actions would have been colorful from jump and it’s all up to you to see what gear she is driving that side car in. We as people have to know what we are getting into, it seems difficult I know, to ask question about an uncertain future,
“I just met you.”
Think for a minute what if he turns and walks away, or the phone stops ringing this week, you the hand holder was in a foreign land. This guy wanted something that you did not, no link, he just wanted to play and you need him to stay. Of course this should take place before the booty call, or lunch at the W room 6009. Once you put sex into the mix, I don’t care who you are–you will begin to act on your own interpersonal instincts. You might fall in love easy; maybe you’re that possessive type or just wait and see. The hard fact remains, if this was a hooker he slammed you good, and you know that it was one time only, done! If you go in with your mind set you come out with a greater attitude, if things are not established first hand someone always gets dogged in the end.
This is some serious but simple shit to remember and live by:
WONDERING WILL GET YOU NOWHERE, QUESTIONS WILL GET YOU EVERYWHERE.
You have no one to blame if you don’t protect you happiness before you spread your legs. Its all good do your thing, so you just want some ass fine, but give me the respect to make the choice to be involved in a hit and run. As people we don’t wear signs, so how are you to know when you found a link or if you landed on the wrong planet. You don’t want to be handcuffed to someone, only to find out how they play and realize your happiness is in jeopardy. In defense of birds, just like big girls they need love too. I for one believe we all serve a purpose so try to link up with the one you want, and most of all keep it real.
Wow! I forgot someone the straight up lustful Slut! How do I explain something so simple and yet taboo. You know a good girl looks at a slut, purely for the way she looks and dislikes her, knowing that she has the confidence to succeed almost every time. Must I remind you
“when a women says pussy a man will always say over here.”
So the slut the one who dressed for the part, or maybe not, she defiantly came with her A game. After surveying the room she picks a target and zooms in for the kill. You might ask does anything matter. Well I guess not, this is a total sport for he or she that wants to bed down for the hell of it. With a very competitive nature they know how to get into a zone, weather at a wedding or family picnic. To feed there sexual need, like the drug addict they are consistently on the prowl, cool and collective. Depending on the working behavior, (strong) their outward attitude may be in your face, or sweet and in the shadows (sly). The sly type eases her way around the room, with a shy but friendly demeanor. Infectious at the end of the night she is the one person everyone will comment on. She will make just enough of an impact on the guys, that some will give up their number quick and others will ask for a hook up through a third party. For the one she wants, she’ll take small steps giving him lots of room to step in. Never making it obvious to any preying eyes, she might tell about where she can be found, or give out her e-mail address. It’s more important that she can hook something up for the near future. Like a hungry lion a strong slut will hunt their prey no questions asked. You can be walking in the park with your girl and a man with no respect with holla at your girl. He’ll find that one inopportune point to sneak up and place a word at her side. Waiting to see if your man will step to him, or show some weakness, which allows him to stand and deliver. That’s all he needs is an inch, and he’ll be all in your face push’in up trying to find out what’s pop’in for tonight. He’s only into this minute, right here and how. Down for what ever, he’s the type that you can’t turn your back on; no doubt he will fuck anything. Everyday it’s about fatt’in his pockets, and every women he comes in contact with, is a potently piece.
Not one to be shy or standoffish, he has a language, loves to talk and must have your attention. It’s a sport, the process of getting between your legs, adding another victim to his long list of special friends. It can only be sex; emotions are not something he puts into the action plan. When they are with you, you need to stick to the plan, it might be a little hard to hear but their agenda is straight forward. Depending how they feel you, it could be
“Come in drop your pants, do the damm thing and leave quickly.”
Their service is like a drive thru window, you might get dick’ed down good fashion, (that’s up to the brother) but if that’s not a key element for you, the repeated action of bodies slapping together is a guarantee. Some people mix elements cause after all people are people, and everyone should strive to be an individual. As much as I hate labels these are the personas which we all operate from. How do we pick up these habits, when and why do we decide that this must be the behavior for me? I am sure that like myself, you have never given it any thought, you just go about your sexual life: falling in and out of love, jumping around or straight up risky behavior. I’m not a doctor or any type of professional; I’m just a person with lots of friends of all walks of life. Truth is people love to talk to me that has to be my claim to fame. For some reason once you get to know me, feel my realism, you’ll be open-words will flow and stories will be told. So over many years have I found myself struggling to understand how we manage to make the same mistakes over and again?
It has to be said as I believe it; a lack of understanding is the number one problem. We just jump right in time and time again never asking the right questions, and sometimes without a care. If all you want is sex, don’t be rude about it, but state your case. So if the other person is willing you can now make it happen, so when it’s over no one gets hurt. Hopefully all expectations will be met. Am I putting a stamp of approval on one night stands, well yes, if we come to the party with an understanding and treat each other with respect, no one gets hurt when the party ends. On the other hand I’ve been on serious drive by’s, when one of my girls was ready to get postal. Yeah, remember that day you woke up to find your car seats filled with baby piss, and that shity diaper she used to spell out cheater on the hood. That was one of the best, you see sugar in the gas tank that’s old school. Straight indications that your ass got caught in some serious shit, females are the worst at putting you through hell. The rule of the day is mustard, if you have a car, she’ll be preying for a heat wave in the nineties. Today your disregard for respect can cost you dearly; e-mail tampering and billboard posting on the internet will do the trick.
Your business will be front page news, and for what the same amount of time it takes her to desecrate your name, you could stop and ask her that question. Giving her the keys to her happiness, cause she will know where you are coming from and the decisions she makes will be her own. Ho’s need fare treatment too, tell someone where you are going before you strap them in for the ride. Remember this is a small place we live in, and what you do will come right back to you. So while you where running around chasing what you thought was a new piece in town. Only the baby boy this girl has looks so familiar, and your cousin you will soon find out is the father. Now you’ve made a mess, if only you could have kept jonnie in your pants a little longer. This world is too small for us to be so messy.
Anyway what can I say about the Homothug, girl watch out! Keep your eyes peeled and your legs closed. He is a delusion just a bit on the hard side, a fitted hat, strong look of his face, loose clothes and oversized jacket with big hip-hop logos. And some can give it to you a little harder. The idea is when you see him walking down the street, you see a strong man, timberland boots, baggie jeans maybe some sweat pants. The coat the t-shirt and wife beater all triple x-large, flowing with some effort one on top of another, and leaving just enough space to somehow let their boxer shorts override the pants. The question is whose, who…the boyz come so hard but some come with a little sugar in their cookie. Young girls really need to be on point these days cause the boyz of the day are playing on both sides of the fence.
Yeah, the boy that works in your office, you know the one that delivers the mail and packages floor to floor. Hair in cornrolls, mad cute, that sexy smile, wears his pants at the lowest part of his waist, doing what he can to stay within the rules of corporate America. On his break he’s all over the cell, hitting up the jock he met on line last night, as he was fishing and snagging the hottest downloads. Trust me when I say he is constantly keeping tabs with 2 or more peeps at a time. This life has no time clock you have to be ready for a road game at any point. His girlfriend, wifey, sideorder, its not her fault, but it can and will be her sadness. She is so unaware of his hidden desire. He sexes her down good, puts just enough drama into their relationship, that she never has a clue. When he’s out at the gym he could be suck'in dick, or meeting the next hook up. Straight acting on every level the boy hates on the homo’s you see when the two of you are in the Village shopping or walking you to the subway from your job at Time Warner. Every now and again he will complain to you about how they are always looking at him, never stopping to realize that if he didn’t shape his eyebrows and polish his hands and nails; just maybe he would not gain so much attention.
But they have faults some are a dead give away, so allow me to expose some key elements.
(A) His eyes, the way he stares most certainly direct and straight foreword when ever he’s with you, as though he has tunnel vision. He won’t make eye contact with anyone 1 to 5 feet in front of him, but can see everything coming down the street some twenty yards to a block away. He must see everything before you, that’s how he avoids pending uncomfortable situations. It’s a dead gaze you can’t put him in a room full of men and then watch his reaction, you just have to watch, and this look is consistent and day to day behavior. However, trust he will be the first one to put his feet to Jesus.
(B) The grooming has crossed all party lines, all the young boyz these days are facing the blade-having some fine ass Dominican shape their eyebrows, mustache and beard with a sharp razor blade. If your man is to clean you better watch! To many friends you better watch! The grooming give away, babypowder, it helps to hide the smell of sex and latex. Of course a hook up has to take place somewhere, shower, he’ll wash before he leaves the apt and when the deed is done a shower will be had at the boys house or your man is stopping by the gym, he’ll even use his mother if she lives in the area. When and if there’s no time to wash, its time for wet ones or baby wipes, available in convenient travel size, then a splash of baby power, it’s like baking soda to a refrigerator absorbing any odors and disappearing into the skin.
(C) Infectious, like the flu, they are continuously at work, pushing harder and building. For the most part a true thug has his street game, like a ghost writer he pushes a little bit of product-no big sales in actuality he moves the package around. He’s a small part of the game, which keeps him in the streets and the cell ringing with connects. From the girls prospective he’s heavy in the game, watch! That small portion is just a few kids who cop from him, and the rest is for his habit to feed the recreational time spent with the boyz. Just think about it for a minute, there can’t be that many drug dealers, and how many are making serious paper? You better ask yourself do you really know the person you are sleeping with. Cause the outcome of their covert actions can be jail of aids, a harmful choice to make either way-as the boy plays games with your life not given you the choice. Such a dangerous game and so many girls don’t know that they are in it. Undercover that’s what we called it back in the day, the 80’s, when you could hide in the corners of the Paradise Garage, cause it was so big and depending on what day you where seen there-you could always boast about how it was non stop on the weekends. We moved to Trade in the 90’s, a father Monday to Friday and yours for the weekend.
There were freestyle songs about it:
“Doing it in the dark doing ii in the park… ooh yeah Rock creek Park.”
That was the jam and there are others and when we hit the clubs we were jumpin around to it. Sylvester, Chocolate and Jeremiah Steward, they were pioneers, trying to get the message out but it was up to you to heed the warning in the music. Even Salt & Pepper proclaimed that watch your man he’s playing confused one day Paul next day Mary. Today it’s on the Down Low, and it has evolved into this progression or a movement, one that s bigger then don’t ask don’t tell. It goes beyond the look, beyond the neighborhoods of where you think it might be.
Today it crosses all lines cause of the internet. No longer running to the gym or to the trails and wooded areas of Central, Crotona or Cunningham Park-today it’s all about the hit and run, time and place can be set in advance thanks it the computer age. It goes down on the way to work or maybe on the way home, before you get to question the deed has been done. A mans gona be a man, when you let him outta the gate, he’s gonna do what he wants to do, and when he returns he’ll take care of home.
The idea is no longer what you see is what you get; more than ever you girls need to stop, look and listen. He’ll have you pregnant and jammed up in a situation before you ever get your first clue. Remember he’s a man with a strong need to be with another man, so he will cover that shit up better than Betty Crocker can frost a cake.
At church a deacon at Greenleaf Baptist, on-line
“deepholebratha” pictured butt ass naked with only his asshole in clear view. Versatile hungry top, first he deceives you with his one line ad, he’s all about digg’in your back out, and on rear occasions will he bottom out, but he’s got you with hopes that you too will get some ass. Second the name, misinformation and the two kids and girl back home are left outta the equation, and that’s the new kid Anthony from the mail room. Now that’s the ABC’s of the GAY.
Comments
Post a Comment